Dear Readers,
I want to touch on a subject that, although talked about now and then, is not discussed as fully as it needs to be. The subject in question is the contraceptive pill. Cue panicked fumbling as you all remember you forgot to take your pill today…
I would like to touch on a few issues related to taking the pill, the first being:
Asking to go on the pill:
This is an awkward moment for anybody. Whether you’re 16 or 19, telling your mom that you want to start taking the pill is basically telling her that your sex life has begun. You can officially nod your head when the doctor asks you if you’re sexually active.
While some girls do start taking it for the positive effects some of them can have on your skin, or to have a more regular period, there should be less of a taboo around asking for the pill. I think the way the topic of sex is approached for young people in Ireland (and maybe elsewhere, I wouldn’t know) is all wrong. Girls are told they will get a period and that this means they are now majestic fertile beings. That’s it. Having attended a convent school the topic of actual sex wasn’t really covered, and when it was it was done so extremely awkwardly, or it was talked about as if we shouldn’t even think about sex. On the other hand, boys were told about sex. They were also told about masturbation, a topic that is again only seen as taboo on women. From this young age we were being told that we were not sexual human beings the way men were. If we got urges, we were to stifle them between our stiffly ironed pinafores.
There are MANY problems that go with this. Not only does it mean talking about the pill with your mum is terrifying and you feel like you’re admitting to some awful crime, it means we knew absolutely nothing about anything. Do you remember the first time you tried to use a tampon? Were we even told where the vagina is?! No. Class 101 on how to insert a tampon definitely needs to be added to the curriculum. Cue checking ‘wikihow’ and spending at least thirty minutes with your leg hiked up on the bath trying and failing to get this God-forsaken instrument in!
This taboo also means that some girls don’t even look for the contraceptive pill, and you’ll note the handful of girls from your school-days who ended up pregnant. That could have easily been avoided if they had just been told about contraception from the time they could understand sex, and the ins and outs of ovulation, the importance of protection, and the actual pill. If we weren’t made to feel as though we were Satan’s personal minions for having sexual thoughts, we wouldn’t have felt so nervous about asking for the contraceptive pill. I really believe that no girl who has decided she is going to have sex is going to be stopped by being told she can’t go on the pill because she’s too young. Give her the pill. You may think you’re being a medium for promiscuity, but she’s going to do it sooner or later.
HORMONES:
I knew when I started taking the pill that it would mess with my system for the first couple of months. Those first few months are the telling factor of whether or not you should keep taking that one. While I anticipated some mood swings, maybe snapping at one or two people, I couldn’t have predicted the affect it would have on my everyday. About two weeks into taking it, I felt as though a cloud was hanging over me. Think about it as putting on sunglasses and everything becomes slightly dimmer. I could tell I was more sensitive, similar to the week you get your period. I was pushed over the edge by the smallest things going wrong, and according to my poor mother, I was a terror to be around. (I actually have no recollection of what I was doing, which is kind of scary).
Not only was there a dampner on everyday life, the week I went off the pill each month was a scary down I hadn’t experienced before, and it got worse with each cycle. I would cry the whole week, my cravings went through the roof, and I was so tired there were some days I wasn’t even sure I’d go to college. Eventually I found myself asking “why am I so down?”, because I couldn’t find a legitimate reason for being THAT down. I only came off that one about a month ago, and aside from a few events in the past couple of months that could have assisted those downs, I can say that a lot of it (or a lot of the way I handled things) was down to the pill. I’m telling you this because it took me way too long to realise I shouldn’t have to take that one. It isn’t fair to you to have to endure a week out of each month in absolute depression, and I’m not using that word lightly. It is only as my body returns to normality am I realising just how much the pill was affecting my everyday. I feel like a different person now, as though I’m more myself than I have been in months. If the pill you are taking has this affect on you, stop taking it. There are other pills, lower dosages, and other options. You are so much more important than stopping your monthly ovulation.
The littl(er) issues:
Remembering to take your pill becomes one of the most difficult things. If you’re on the mini-pill especially, you know you cannot mess that up. There are a few things you can do to help remember. I personally use a cute little app on my phone which reminds me everyday. Just type pill reminder into the app store and you’ll find one. Some girls just set an alarm on their phone to go off every day at a particular time, and they take it then. These are just some little methods to remember to take it 🙂
The only other issue I want to mention is actually getting the pill. We rack up quite the bill between paying for doctor’s appointments for prescriptions and check-ups, and actually buying the pill. So much effort. So much stress. I just want to eat cookies, and it’s all your fault, Contraceptive Pill.
That’s all for now ladies (and any guys nosing about),
I’ll be blogging much more frequently about the things we don’t really want to talk about (except really really want SOMEONE to talk about), or the things we just weren’t taught in school.
Kerry x